It is a very sad reality. The very nature of the traditional system’s adversarial approach allows children and money to be used as bargaining chips. Parents do not intentionally use their children as pawns but regardless of intention, that is exactly what happens. There is usually a tug-of-war, known as position bargaining, over money or children. When spouses feels cornered, they come out fighting - and will use whatever ammunition is available. The more threatened they feel, the more powerful the ammunition they use.

The two areas where power is exercised in a divorce surround money and the children, so they are used to achieve some measure of control. The person who has more control over money will use money, and the person who has more control over the children will use the children. It’s commonplace and even expected in a traditional divorce; parties engage in this tug-of-war to achieve what they call ‘victory’.

Contrast the traditional approach with The Divorce Solutions Process™ where parties are guided through a step-by-step process that achieves an outcome without the tug-of-war. Consider:

• A process that deals with money and children separately
• A process that reduces fear and stress so parents can spend their energy creating a co- parenting plan tailored to their family’s needs
• A plan that empowers all the parties - parents and children alike
• A way to move through divorce that does not include unnecessary pain and suffering
• A way that allows you to be the best you can be, so that your children are also empowered through the family’s time of transition.